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Osho had this to say on the topic of mindful relationships: “When you are in relationship with people, in a thousand and one ways you are provoked, challenged, seduced. Again and again you come to know your pitfalls, your limitations, your anger, your lust, your possessiveness, your jealousy, your sadness, your happiness all moods come and go, you are constantly in a turmoil. But this is the only way to know who you are.” Without learning who you are, there can be no real relationship with another because the relationship will only consist of subconscious pattern repetition and emotional and physical reaction. Mindfulness is the ultimate in self-care practices. The questions are all about you. Who am I? Why am I? What am I? Where am I? Where am I going? What do I want? How do I want it? How am I doing? Am I doing it right? Am I getting the results I want? How can I get the results I want? And so on. This expression of self-care in the form of self-examination is what allows intimacy and love to occur without repeating patterns of lust, infatuation, and, eventually, hatred and repulsion. Being able to recognize patterns makes it possible to stop being carried by their momentum and instead begin making choices about the type of relationship you want to have. The American Psychological Institute published a study conducted over 30 years that concludes that couples who practice mindful relationships experience greater physical, emotional and spiritual intimacy in their relationships. Instead of competition, aggression, repulsion and their opposites- codependence, passive- aggressiveness and obsessive lust- mindful couples experience higher levels of harmony, personal and professional satisfaction and deeper, more stable levels of sexual intimacy. Sounds good, doesn’t it? But remember, before you enter into mindful relationships with another, you must first “Know Thyself.” Sources: Thyselfknow.com/erasmus/